Social Sites and the one You dig

Gentlemen, have your computers and iPhones, and Blackberries handy. Have I got some advice for you hot off the... internet?!

In this day of latent phone calls, and face to face meetings only after dozens of emails, texts, and IM's, there is some important protocol that you should follow to show the woman in your life, on the woman you WANT to be in your life that you get it..er..uh.. her.

Okay, so let's say you have been awakened to a person you met through a social networking site. You have made efforts to engage them often, and even maybe set a date for a formal meeting face to face. PAY ATTENTION to her posts. Be it Twitter or Facebook or MYSPACE... or anything else... Make sure you have read everything on her profile, her blogs, her latest tweets, etc. Why? There is nothing more offensive then you asking her what her favorite band is, when all she does is post videos from said band on her page. Likewise, it goes for just about every other 20 questions you could ask, except for maybe some about her upbringing, and maybe favorite color or animal... unless she has recently posted a quiz result that pertain to these. Its not stalking if the information is out there in the open, with the intent for you to read it.

The reason someone spends all their time filling out all these information areas is to give you those initial 20 questions, so that if you are still interested, you can move forward. The point of technology is to reduce the banal preliminaries that eroded the whole finding your mate process in the first place. You have the basic compatibility information in your possession and you don't even have to waste your time on an internet dating site. Plus you get the extra perk of seeing their friends, friend responses, and other random info that clues you into their personality.

Let us say you are intuitive enough to have done these things... then I must switch to the other side of this social networking infrastructure. When you do snag a date, meeting, or other face to face time with the object of your desire, leave that device home or shut it off. There is nothing that will quickly pop a red flag faster than a guy who constantly checks his phone on a date. There are situations (you are a doctor) that warrant the cellphone to be on. However, unless you forewarn your companion, touching the cell is downright rude. It shows her that your mind is elsewhere. Not there, in the moment, with her. How can you really get to know
someone if you are wondering what is being tweeted, or who just friend requested you on Facebook?

The key here is to know when to use the technology to work for you, and knowing when it will work against you.